Why your sensitivity is not a problem
— but a new language
I have heard this a thousand times:
“I’m highly sensitive, I need to protect myself.”
But here is what most people don’t get:
Sensitivity is not an illness — it is a subtle language that opens doors most people never even see.
Maybe you are at this point right now.
You’re thinking:
“I can’t handle this anymore. It’s just too much. I don’t know where to put all these thoughts, feelings and experiences. I need to protect myself. I need to retreat, hide at home.”
I think most of us know this feeling.
Especially after being in the city, surrounded by people, or coming out of a meeting where the atmosphere felt heavy or tense … we withdraw.
We lie down on the couch at home, pull a blanket over our heads. And usually it doesn’t stop there.
We distract ourselves with a movie that — if we’re honest — doesn’t really help the sensitivity overlaod we are struggling with in that moment.
But often, we simply don’t know how to deal with all these this inner chaos.
And here is the interesting part:
Most of the time, none of it is actually yours.
The feelings that lead you to eating an entire bar of chocolate at once, watching a movie you don’t even care about, only to fall into bed completely exhausted — they are not yours.
The trembling you feel, the nervousness after leaving a meeting where your boss treated a colleague badly — not yours either.
And despite your sensitivity and your incredible ability to perceive moods and atmospheres,
there is one thing you may not have noticed yet:
What you are carrying does not belong to you.
Yes, I’m repeating myself here.
Because it is deeply important to understand:
Sensitivity often feels overwhelming not because it is “too much”, but because it leaves you experiencing things with an enourmous intensity that are not actually yours.
And this is where I want to shift something.
Where I want to offer a different perspective.
One that brings you back into your strength.
Because that is what it really is about.
The truth is: sensitivity is not something you need to protect yourself from — or protect yourself because of.
It is not an illness.
And it is not an excuse for all the things you don’t really want to do. That would be hiding. Spiritual bypassing. Call it whatever you want.
The sensitivity you identify with is not your identity.
It is a language.
A talent.
A subtle energetic capacity you can perceive — and many others cannot.
Sensitivity is not an illness
– it is a subtle language.
Let me give you an image that helped me a lot.
Our brains think in pictures, and sometimes concepts become much clearer that way.
Imagine you buy the newest iPhone — the best processor, the best camera, the highest image quality, the full luxury edition
— and then you hand it to your newborn baby.
Maybe your child can hold it.
Maybe it drops it.
But it will definitely not be able to use it.
It won’t be able to access what this device is capable of.
It’s not healthy for the baby.
The sounds are too loud, the images overwhelming, everything is confusing. It’s simply too much.
So the baby might throw it away.
It becomes frustrated, uncomfortable.
The energy shifts. Something feels off.
This is very similar to how sensitivity feels for many people.
You are holding an incredible tool — but you were never shown how to use it.
You don’t know where the “off” switch is.
You don’t know how to zoom, how to focus the camera, why images suddenly save as .HEIC instead of .JPEG.
You simply don’t know how to work with it.
And of course that feels overwhelming.
It makes sense.
But the phone is not the problem.
The problem is that the child doesn’t yet know how to use it — and at that stage, it shouldn’t have it in the first place.
And this is very similar with sensitivity.
It’s not your sensitivity that is the problem.
It’s the way you handle it.
Chances are, if you are here, no one taught you how to work with your sensitivity when you were young.
So even today, you may still react to it like a child holding an iPhone — not knowing how to navigate it, getting overwhelmed, frustrated, maybe even sick because of it.
And yet, sensitivity itself is not the problem.
Your relationship to it is.
You’re not worn out. You are rich in information.
So let’s learn that now.
Let’s learn how to work with it.
How to see it as a tool.
As a language.
As a kind of secret code that opens the door to an entirely different world.
A world that isn’t spoken.
Not even really seen.
A world that is felt.
A doorway to information most people around you simply do not have access to.
I like to imagine it as golden hieroglyphs floating in the air
— symbols only you can read.
That is actually how I perceive light language as well … but that is a different topic.
If you’re curious, you can explore that here.
For now, back to the language of sensitivity.
It can make tangible what others don’t even sense.
It can point you toward directions others don’t know how to look for
— let alone walk.
It can open doors to the life you have always longed for.
And the fact that you long for it — that you long for this life — is already another clue:
On some level, it already belongs to you.
Desire doesn’t come out of nowhere.
We can talk about that another time.
For now, it is enough to know this:
Your sensitivity is not a problem.
Not an illness.
Not something you need to protect yourself from.
Maybe you have used it — consciously or unconsciously — to avoid certain things.
Maybe you have instrumentalized it. And please don’t feel attacked here.
I have done this too. Many times. And I hardly know anyone who hasn’t.
What matters is simply becoming aware of it now.
Learning to see your experiences, perceptions, actions and thoughts from a different angle.
Finding your sense of inner power again.
Shifting from
“God, I feel drained, like a battery stuck at 1%”
to
“Let’s see what I can do with all this information. I am rich in information.”
You are not doomed to endure the impressions you experience. You are allowed, asked, to choose what you’ll do with them.
From here, you have the possibility to choose:
This I look at now.
That I don’t.
This later.
That never.
You don’t have to feel bombarded by impressions.
You are the one who decides which channels are open, which tabs stay active, which get closed, saved, archived, or revisited later.
It is in your hands.
And from this perspective, sensitivity can really only be seen as a strength.
As a golden key
to another world.
What if your sensitivity was never the problem
– but has always been the key?
Sensitivity is no flaw. It’s a languagce.
And you now have the ability to learn it.